Friday, 16 June 2023

FISHERMEN RIGHTS-HUMAN RIGHTS AND SOVEREIGNITY

 Human rights have become a topic of great importance in the fishing industry. This comes after the fishing industry has been on the spotlight for several cases of abuse of human rights. Fishermen are being subjected to very inhumane conditions. When discussing human rights in fishing industry issues of fishing rights is always brought up and there is always some form of conflict that exists in terms of allocation of such rights. It is important to recognize that crimes do happen in the fishing industry that not only threatens our ecosystems but also labourers working in the industry. Let’s take a look at how the fishing industry negatively impacts its workers and violates their rights.

1.      Poor working conditions

Most vessels subject their workers to poor working and living conditions and this has been going on for a while and several investigations have been conducted on the same. Access to adequate food, water, safety equipment and adequate living space, with spaces being cramped is an issue that has been identified (ILO).

Many fishers spend long hours away from home, with most spending even more time on sea and living there, in conditions that are not very suitable. With most spending time on the vessels, there is no clear distinction between working hours and resting hours, this makes them more vulnerable to over working and long working hours. Fishing is actually hazardous as when fishers experience challenges or are exploited they are far from family members and even authorities. They are also more likely to face more risks due to decline in fish stocks which forces then to move further offshore. This means the fatality rate of fishers are very high. Many fishers have complained of intense work, poor working conditions and very low wages.

2.      Human trafficking and Forced labour

There are many reports that show that forced labour and human trafficking is a serious issue the fishing industry, with migrants being the most vulnerable. Migrants are most vulnerable as the make up most of the labour and they are more vulnerable to being forced and tricked by recruitment agents and forced to work by means of bondage or threat (ILO).

Victims have reported incidents of sexual abuse, physical torture, long working hours, illness and death of fellow work mates. Illegal fishing, over fishing and sourcing labour from low income countries means migrant workers who are paid less are employed. Language barrier, lack of training and inability to enforce required standards make these fishers vulnerable to trafficking and forced labour.

Amidst efforts to address the issues, Thailand has been on the spotlight because of human rights abuses in the fishing industry. In April 2015, the European Union issued a “Yellow card” warning to Thailand as a country that is very possible to be uncooperative in fighting illegal, unreported and unregulated fishing (Human rights watch 2018).

Child labour and abuse has also been reported in harvesting and processing in the fishing industry, with studies showing there could be millions of children involved throughout the world. In Ghana, very young children are sold as bonded labourers and denied education, exposed to slavery and hazardous labour, malnourished and exposed to other forms of abuse. In Vietnam, there is evidence that children aged 5-17 are involved in harvesting and processing and are exposed to very hazardous tasks. Human trafficking and child labour is not only limited to these countries but globally this has been an issue (Lydia, et al 2019)

To curb the cases of human rights abuses in this industry, there should be stronger regulatory controls to improve working conditions at sea, proper implementation and enforcement of laws, fully equipped and trained labour inspectors and enforcement of labour laws that are in compliance with labour standards.

3.      Fishing rights

In fisheries management there exist a very important relationship between human rights and fishing rights. Fishing rights are permission that a licensing body grants a fisher to harvest fish or any aquatic product. Human rights where everyone is a right-holder and doesn’t exclude anyone, however fishing rights can’t always be equated as human rights as only those who have the ‘rights’ through licensing can get access to the resource and benefit. Hence, human rights and fishing rights cannot be considered to be equal (Song et al 2019).

Another challenge of fishing rights is determining whose rights matter more when different parties are trying to secure fishing rights; a good example is between native community and non-native small scale fishers (Song et al 2019). It is important to recognize both rights when planning and implementing Human Rights Based Approach as fishing as though it was a human right also poses great challenges. Prioritizing the needs of the marginalized and vulnerable over the economic interest of larger scale fisheries should be key and paid much focus.

REFERENCES

ILO, work in fishing convention No. 188 and recommendation No. 199.

ILO, Forced labour and human trafficking in fisheries

Human Rights Watch, January 23, 2018, Hidden Chains. Rights Abuses and Forced Labor in Thailand’s Fishing Industry.

Lydia C. L. Teh ,Richard Caddell,Edward H. Allison, Elena M. Finkbeiner,John N. Kittinger, Katrina Nakamura,Yoshitaka Ota. The role of human rights in implementing socially responsible seafood. January 25, 2019

Andrew M. Song, Adam Soliman, Situating human rights in the context of fishing rights – Contributions and contradictions

Friday, 9 June 2023

Top 5 Countries With Extremely Alarming Level Of Hunger

 5. Democratic Republic of Congo (DRC)

At number 5, with a 2021 Global Hunger Index (GHI) score of 39.0, Democratic Republic of the Congo is stuck in a vicious downfall of events. Food insecurity, internal conflict, mass level displacement, collapsing infrastructure, crop failure and high levels of poverty have interplayed and compounded the situation to a full-blown flood crisis engulfing around a quarter of Congo’s population.

 



 










(SOURCE:
Global Hunger Index)

 

 

4. Chad

 

Ranking 4th in the list is Chad, having a 2021 GHI score of 39.6. Plagued with undernourishment, one-third of the country is devoid of access to the minimum required calories for basic nourishment. With a stunting rate of 35.1%, child wasting rate of 13% and under 5 mortality rates of 11.4% the country has recorded extreme levels of food insecurity

 



 










(SOURCE: The
Borgen Project)

 

 

3. Central African Republic

 

At 43.0, the Central African Republic (CAR) has the third-highest 2021 GHI score. Around 50% of the population lives in acute undernourishment. Violence of the civil war, insecurity and large-scale displacement have led to intense food insecurity.

 



 











(SOURCE: The
Borgen Project)

 

 

2. Yemen


2nd in the rankings, Yemen’s 2021 GHI score at 45.1, corresponds with its concerning GHI

indicators, prevalence of under- nourishment of 45.4 percent, child stunting rate estimated at 51.4 percent, child wasting rate estimated at 15.1 percent, and a mortality rate for children under age five of 5.8 percent. The World Food Program declared in 2021 that more than 5 million people of Yemen are on the verge of famine.

 



 










(SOURCE:
AsiaNews)

 

 

1.Somalia

 

Topping the 2021 GHI ranking, Somalia with the score of 50.8 is in an extremely alarming
situation. Around 60% of its population is swept up in undernourishment. An unending series of crisis including droughts, famines, internal conflict, and the recent pandemic have all exacerbated the situation.

 



 











(SOURCE: UNICEF Connect)

 

 

Top 5 Practices for Mitigating ‘Soil degradation’

 Soil degradation occurs due to decreased fertility of the soil. Various underlying reasons could be loss of humus (top layer of soil) due to water runoff, overgrazing and unhealthy land management practices.  

5. TERRACING: mostly practiced on slopes or hilly lands, they effectively slow down the speed of water ensuring the topsoil doesn’t wash away. This involves cutting of slope into series of ridges or platforms which resemble steps thus also termed as step farming.    

4. CROP ROTATION: It is contrary to monoculture (cultivation of a single crop only), crop rotation implies planting of different crops on the same piece of land in a particular order. Like if we plant legumes after suppose say wheat then legumes would help in restoring nitrogen content in the soil that wheat has utilized. Thus, it helps in replenishing nutrients in the soil. 

3. WIND BREAKS: They could be natural or artificial and act as barriers to the flow of wind so the topsoil doesn’t blow away, thus preventing wind erosion. For example, shrubs, in addition, hold the soil too. 

2. STRIP FARMING: It is a method of growing different crops in systematic lanes or narrow strips on the same piece of land (like alternative rows of cotton and alfalfa) Mostly practiced on land with steep slopes. This checks soil erosion and also improves agricultural productivity.

1. REFORESTATION: Planting more and more trees like plantation drives in the deforested areas. The underlying motive is to maintain vegetative cover to reduce wind and water-induced soil erosion. Some studies show bamboo plantation helped restore degraded land, as it generates biomass underground, has long roots to bind the soil together (a single bamboo plant can hold up to 6 cubic meters of soil) and also helps the soil to retain moisture. 

 

  • Wind breaks
    Artificial and natural windbreaks, such as shrubs, reduce the erosion effects of wind. Plants also have the added benefit of “anchoring” the soil, reducing the effects of erosion from water.
  • Terracing
    Terracing of slopes reduces the effects of water runoff and helps conserve rain water.
  • Strip farming
    Alternating strips of different types of crops helps reduce the effects of erosion.
  • Crop rotation
    Crop rotation is the planting of different crops in the same field in a specific order; monoculture is the planting of the same crop. Crop rotation has been shown to increase the nutrients of the soil, as well as reduce pests and crop disease.

 

Preparedness Of Educational Institutions to Tackle Natural Disasters

Natural disasters are catastrophic ones such as floods, earthquake, wildfire, hurricane, tornado, landslides, tsunami, drought, heat waves, volcano eruptions, mudflow, thunderstorm, typhoon etc.

Due to climate change, the risk of natural disasters is frequent across the world. We have to mitigate measures the severe impact of climate emergency. Children are facing adverse effects of natural hazards. They are into physical and mental trauma. Many of them even losing their academic performance. 

Educational institutions must focus on these type measures, they have to take safety and security concerns. Be at a stage to handle the situations under any circumstances. The school management must include disaster management as part of curriculum. Teach the students about it as not just as a subjective lesson, teach them to face it, tackle in hurdle times. It should be a hybrid approach where it includes wisdom and local knowledge can be used to prevent socio-economic issues.

Proper planning, co-ordination and execution must have, a strategic approach is necessary. There shall be firefighting equipment, fire warning and fire alarm systems in place. The educational institution should take the authority to implement a standard operating procedure (SOP) for access control – SOP were designed to create uniformity of effort, and cohesion, thus resulting in the continuity of standards. 

Create a mock drill like tactics such as – immediate action drills, intelligence gathering, surveillance and counter surveillance, authentication etc. to understand the students easily. It will be useful in future if any situations occur. Familiarize the staff personnel with emergency procedures. Make students aware about the designated assembly areas, exits, staging areas and provide for a functional radio communication grid, dedicated to evacuation and medical emergencies only.

Establish an emergency coordinator in every institution makes it easy to report problems, evaluate after any emergency or event of any nature. Disaster may result into death, injury or disease, damage to property, infrastructure or the environment, disruption of the life of a community.

Disaster management means a continuous and integrated multi-sectoral, multi-disciplinary process of planning and implementation of measures aimed at:

  • Preventing or reducing the risk of disasters
  • Mitigating the severity or consequences of disasters
  • Emergency preparedness 
  • Rapid and effective response to disasters 
  • Post-disaster recovery and rehabilitation  

Disaster preparedness: it means exactly being prepared for anything. Good planning and preparedness activities can significantly reduce the impact of a disaster, and also assist with basic emergencies and may prevent operational failure. A disaster plan is a key part of preparedness. We must take all of the steps necessary to mitigate and to prepare for disasters. This includes incorporating the necessary emergency equipment and services. A disaster is a large-scale emergency. 

Any emergency management initiative must start with an inventory of risks and an assessment of the exposure from these risks. Infrastructure issues will likely be seen as the ones that present the most risk. The key steps in emergency management are:

  • Mitigation 
  • Preparedness
  • Response
  • Recovery 

Mitigation – reduces or eliminates long-term risk to people and property from natural hazards and their effects. It involves such activities as avoiding construction in high-risk areas such as floodplains, engineering buildings to withstand wind and earthquakes and more. 

Preparedness – simply preparing for an emergency before it occurs. The key to effective emergency management is being ready to provide a rapid emergency response. 

Response – action of responding to an emergency. Trained and equipped personnel will be required to deal with any emergency situation.

Recovery – process of returning to normal. 

Some of the useful tips/resources necessary required to handle to situations under any circumstances:

  • Assign coordinators to review security and accreditation pertaining to
  • Accommodation requirements
  • Accreditation/facilitation requirements
  • Transport and logistics requirements 
  • Health, medical and disaster management requirements
  • Human resources/volunteers and role player’s requirements 
  • Protocol, media liaison, IT, telecom, hospitality 
  • Safety and security assessment and compliance requirements 



Wednesday, 31 May 2023

SDG 14: Life Below Water

If you want to see magic on earth, take a dive and see for yourself the blissful heaven under water. Sadly, the water that connects us all is no longer safe. We are primarily water and we are all sustained by it. Ocean water bodies- their temperature, composition and movement etc. steer the global systems which makes this Earth habitable for us. 

According to WHO around 3 billion people depend on marine and coastal biodiversity for their sustenance. However, today we witness the overexploitation of this precious life-giving resource. 

Marine pollution and ocean acidification is majorly a result of human activities. Some measures to contain water pollution include: - 

1. For sustainable future development it is very important to conserve and effectively manage this precious life-giving resource. Besides developing water saving technologies and mark and methods, attempts are also to be made to prevent the pollution. There's a need to encourage watershed development, rainwater harvesting, water recycling and reusing and conjunctive use of water for sustaining water supply.

2. One way of reducing the pollution load on marine waters is by introducing sewage treatment plants. This will reduce the biological oxygen demand of the final product before it is discharged to the receiving waters. Various stages of treatment, such as primary, secondary, or advanced, can be used depending on the quality of affluent to be treated.

3. Polluter pays principle should be adopted so that by looters will be the first people to suffer by way of paying the cost for the pollution. Ultimately, the polluter pays principle should be designed to prevent people from polluting and making them behave in an environmentally reasonable manner.

4. Also, there is enormous scope for replenishing water through recycling. Watershed management can be used for efficient management and conservation of risk of surface and groundwater resources. It involves prevention of runoff and recharge of through percolation tanks, recharge wells, etc. 

5. Social awareness should be generated. Rainwater harvesting helps to capture and store rainwater for various uses. It helps to recharge groundwater aquifers. It is in low cost and eco-friendly technique for preserving every top of water by guiding the rainwater to bore well pits and bells.

Clearly, we cannot take water bodies for granted. It is crucial for the survival and sustainable prosperity of mankind. More over the water environment knows no political boundaries. It is being threatened in all parts of the world. We must address the world's water pollution not only as individual says States and nations, but also as members of a greater worldwide environmental community.

 

Thursday, 18 May 2023

Impact Of Cultural Appropriation In Preserving Heritage

 

Meet the Death Metal Cowboys of Botswana. In black leather decorated with metal studs, they play a pounding style of music that people who know more than me trace to the British band “Venom” and its 1981 album Welcome to Hell. Question: Is this Cultural Appropriation? Why or why not?

Cultural Appropriation has more than ever become a topic of debate, some arguing its unacceptable while others counter arguing that it promotes cultural exchange. Before we deep dive into this topic, I feel it’s appropriate that we first define the word. According to Oxford dictionary, Cultural Appropriation is the ‘Unacknowledged or inappropriate adoption of the practices, customs, or aesthetics of one social or ethnic group by members of another (typically dominant) community or society.

At Oberlin in 2015, a Vietnamese student shamed the dining hall into ceasing to serve its version of Banh Mi sandwiches. Instead of a crispy baguette with grilled pork, pate, pickled vegetables and fresh herbs, the sandwich used ciabatta bread, pulled pork and coleslaw. “It was ridiculous …. How could they just throw out something completely different and label it as another country’s traditional food?”

The references to “baguette” and “pâté” in a food product of a former French colony might have tipped off the angry Oberlin student that the banh mi is not quite as traditional a Vietnamese food as she imagined. When this exotic remake of a classic pate en baguette was first sold in the streets of Hanoi, the vendors called it “banh tay”: literally "Western-style bread.”

In as much as some can argue that it is human nature to interact with other communities or people of different identities and borrow some cultural aspects, we need to learn that sometimes there is a thin line between appreciation and appropriation. This is particularly vital when the borrowing does lead to exploitation.  Let’s discuss ways in which cultural appropriation is negatively impacting preservation of cultural heritage.

1.      Exploitation

What has been termed as borrowing for a very long time has been brought to light and it has been identified as exploitation. A good example that is very recent is fashion industries taking cultural pieces and making huge profits out of it without incorporating the communities to which the culture belongs to taking into consideration most of these communities still grapple in poverty. Trademarking is never a solution and absence of trademarks doesn’t mean exploitation is appropriate.

2.      Silencing, Erasure and Misrepresentation

One of the harms of cultural appropriation is misrepresentation which can make a culture come across as untrue or misleading. This can often times breed prejudice and stereotypes. Making a culture seems like a representation of the whole community can often times cause the culture in question to lose its specific meaning.

A Canadian university cancelled its yoga classes as Culturally Appropriating – notwithstanding that most of the strenuous moves taught in a modern class actually originate in Danish gymnastics and British army calisthenics, which were in turn appropriated by Indian entrepreneurs seeking to update yoga from a meditative to an active practice for the body-conscious modern age.  

Cultural Appropriation has often times denied some members of a group to represent or speak for themselves especially marginalized groups and communities. In some instances, it causes erasure, this comes about when it popularizes an action or a piece from a culture but fails to educate on its significance.  

3.      Offense

The damage cultural appropriation causes is not just to a single individual but to a large group and can cause an offense to one’s moral sensibilities.

The fashion industry is one of the major culprits of Cultural Appropriation; we’ve seen instances where models wear bindis, turban and other significant cultural and religious garments as a fashion piece. During the Milan Fashion Week 2018, Gucci appropriated Sikh turbans and Hijab and having non-Sikhs models wearing turbans, which carry great significance for the Sikhs as it’s not a fashion trend rather demonstrates their faith. There was a public outcry calling out Gucci especially considering how Muslims and Sikhs are mocked for the turbans and hijabs and often targeted with violence for wearing them in public.

So, does this mean it’s always wrong to engage with a different culture?

Nope! There are times when it’s encouraged to try something from a different culture. Being invited to an Indian wedding where the hosts are cool with you wearing traditional clothing is not cultural appropriation. You’re invited to take part by people from that culture. So, the all-important ideas of dominance and oppression don’t exist here, which is what makes cultural appropriation a big deal in the first place.

 

 

 

As Selflessness, write a letter to humanity of the First Human's Walk on the Moon

 

Dear humanity,

 

Humankind is a constantly evolving species with an excellent acumen to do better. It was not always like this, you know? Ever since the creation of this tangible universe with intangible elements thanks to the big bang theory, I have seen inhabitants of the planet Earth thriving each day.

 

Life started on this blue planet nearly 3.5-4 billion years ago, from the dominance of the microscopic cells to the existence of a humongous species of dinosaurs, ultimately paving the way to homo sapiens. Life on Earth has turned extinct, only to be followed by the birth of a more advanced species. Humankind is the end product of this evolution that shall perhaps survive the longest on this planet.

 

You start believing in the 'collective good' when you witness a wipeout of living, breathing species at such a huge scale and the emergence of entirely new ones like I have. The ancient species did not characterize my mere existence on this planet, but humankind is something I look forward to observing till the next possible evolution. The current year is 1969, not just another year for an average human. This year has created history in the 200,000 years since the appearance of modern species, and you know my favorite part? I identify as the driving force behind this most significant act of humankind!

 

To be honest, you mortal beings never cease to amaze me. One moment you are leading wars against each other in mere hopes of occupying a piece of land, in other times, you bond with mutual interests, strategies, and understanding. Humankind is by far the most complex species I have come across. But I feel it is only natural that species fostering all the latest developments are bound to have shortcomings. There are always reasons for them to prompt a wrong decision, but you all come together through peaceful alliance and a spirit of nobility at the end of the day.

 

Altruism is innate, but it is not instinctual- meaning to say everybody is wired for it, but a 'switch' has to be flipped.[1] It is the month of July 1969; I happen to sense an adrenaline rush of excitement and fear. The entire state of affairs is so loud; it is hard to miss it. According to the humanmade leaflets sold on pavements, Apollo 11 had successfully made it to the moon's surface. I am no science-enthusiast, but the universe and its exploration tend to intrigue my psyche. But this was huge; in terms of my entire existence, I had never thought in my wildest dream that humankind would be successful in attaining that mark of absolute advancement. Expeditions like this take many years of planning, execution, predictions only to result in failed attempts, retrials, frustration, and humane agony.

 

So, finally, after completing the space-travel journey of three days, Commander Neil Armstrong and lunar module pilot Buzz Aldrin made it to the surface of luna. The moment when Armstrong set his foot on the rocky surface of the moon, humankind triumphed! This epic moment of humanity's mark on the moon was telecasted worldwide.

 

All the crew members safely made it back to Earth, although it is rumored that they escaped a near-collision experience. An anomaly almost killed them while they were returning to Earth. The once-classified anomaly caused a discarded piece of space metal to nearly crash into the crew's capsule.[2]

 

But as they say- 'all that's well, ends well,' Apollo 11 moon mission has been the most significant victory of the US in its history of technological advancement and innovations. Needless to say, you have exceeded my expectation in fields of dynamism and creation. I believe that the desire to revolutionize a new era of space exploration aroused the 'collective good' of your descendants. It's hard to predict what next significant endeavor you will take in your mission to be developed soundly.

 

The Moon mission was an essential milestone in humankind's exploration of the moon and its darker side, a possible base for future expeditions into space with a strategic planetary traverse. All the efforts by the scientists, engineers, astronauts, technicians, and supporting teams eventually led to the happening of the impossible. With fragments of the moon's soil and other biological elements, the US space administration, NASA, succeeded in getting the first-mover advantage over other countries. Still, the further developments in the course study of the moon and its surface are helping the entire humankind. Can life exist on the moon? Will humankind eventually colonize the whole solar system? Answers to these questions remain disputed, but one thing is confirmed for sure: the selfless nature and direst need to help humankind evolve and grow as collective individuals that missions like this are set as a pedestal to encourage them to do better.

 

The future might be unpredictable, but one thing that I know from my long existence- individuals, nations & countries shall always come together in the end for the benefactor of the entire humankind. That's what makes them humane and a community focused on consistent development and improving morals & ethics.

 

I am looking forward to futuristic, more incredible revelations.

 

Your constant,

Selflessness



[1] David Rakoff on “altruism”

[2] According to Nancy Atkinson in her “Eight Years to the Moon: The History of the Apollo Missions”

Thursday, 4 May 2023

Raising Your Vibration

 

The law of nature states that everything has a vibration. If you have taken a Chemistry class you probably remember learning about atoms, and that everything is made up of atoms. These atoms are in a constant state of motion and depending on the speed of these atoms; things appear as a solid, liquid or gas. Sound is also a vibration and so are thoughts.

Everything that manifests itself in your life is there because it matches the vibration from your thoughts. We are so much more Powerful than we know. By understanding how our personal energy is impacted by our thoughts, belief and emotions, we can fundamentally change the way we see the world and become aligned with our ideal life.

As you experience it yourself, you experience that the entire material world is nothing but vibration. When we experience the ocean of infinite waves surging within the river of inner sensations flowing within eternal dance of the countless vibrations within every atom of the body, we will witness our continuously changing nature. All of this is happening at an extremely subtle level. As you experience the reality of matter to be vibration, you also start experiencing the reality of the mind, consciousness, perception, sensation and reaction.

When you look closely into the science behind your vibes; manifesting, vibrations, frequency – all of these words are buzzing as more and more people are opening up to the power of energy and how it affects us. But does this suff actually work? And if it does, how and why does it work?

Do you know that feeling when you are around someone and their presence is infectious? That is called ‘Personal Energy.’ This energy at its core can be used or be transformed into influence over others or events.

Power which by definition in the dictionary is the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of others or the course of events; can be used to represent ‘Personal Energy.’ Almost anyone can harness Power. But in order to do so, you would have to play by the rules of ‘Power Games.’ And the perception to these games is very varied and diverse.

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On the other hand, when you are around someone and you just feel drained like you need to shower off the heavy feeling that has taken you over, this is ‘Personal Energy’ at its finest. Researchers at the Heart Math Institute (HMI) in California, study the heart and the amazing role it has in our overall mental wellness. They have discovered that the heart sends out an electromagnetic field of almost 3 feet from your body.

The hearts magnetic field, which is the strongest rhythmic field produced in the body, not only envelops every cell of the body, but also extends out in all directions into space around us. The heart’s magnetic field can be measured several feet away from the body by sensitive magnetometers. Research conducted at HMI suggests that the hearts field is an important carrier of information.   

After everything has be said and done, we are all just energy. The field of quantum physics is a branch of physics that studies matter and energy on an atomic and subatomic level, focusing on the tiniest particles that build the foundation for all life.

Science has shown when you break a cell down, they are simply made of atoms. When you break an atom down, they are made of protons, electrons, neutrons and quarks. When you break protons, electrons, neutrons and quarks down, they are simply vortices of energy. In its simplest form, humans are made up of trillions of cells, cells are made from energy. Therefore, we are all simply energy.

When you hear about raising your vibrations or changing your frequency, people are referring to the vibrations your energy is giving off. Each one of us is vibrating and sending out different energy frequencies at all times. Guess what controls that energy and frequency we emit; our heart and our brain. In other words, the emotions we feel and the thoughts we think. This is why you are hearing so much about the power our thoughts and emotions have on our lives.

The more positive your emotions, the higher your energetic frequency. In ‘David R Hawkins’ book – ‘Power Vs Force,’ he created a diagram of vibrational states based on emotions. To put this in context, think of a time you were experiencing a moment of pure joy, laughter and love; you felt euphoric because your body was physically reacting by releasing different chemical energies of dopamine and oxytocin into your blood. Thus, changing your energetic vibrations. Now think of a time when you were feeling shame, guilt, fear or anger – your body was releasing cortisol or epinephrine into your blood stream, which creates a different energetic vibration, one that feels heavier.

Wednesday, 3 May 2023

Why We Go Cold on Our Partners

 

The story of the path to coldness in love is well known: We start off full of affection for one another, and then, with time, feelings fade. We start prioritizing work, we check our phones while they are speaking, we don’t especially want to hear how their day went. There’s a popular surface explanation for this kind of emotional frost; ‘that people naturally get bored of one another. In the same way as they get bored with everything else – the gadget that once seemed so amazing, or the film they used to love.’

Going cold is, in this story, simply the unavoidable consequence of familiarity. But there’s another explanation, dark at first, but in the end, more hopeful. The loss of interest isn’t either natural or inevitable. The boredom is something at once more complicated and more active – it exists, because we fell hurt by, angry with or scared of our partner, and because we haven’t found a cathartic way to tell ourselves, or them, about it.

Tuning out isn’t inevitable, it is a symptom of disavowed emotional distress, it’s a way of coping. We’re internally numbed, not just a touch based. This can sound strange, after all we might have no active sense that our partner has been hurting, angry or hurt by us. The idea seems laughable or extreme. It makes our partners sound like monsters or ourselves like weaklings, neither of which is true.

The self that loves in a relationship is not the normal, adult self we know from other zones of our lives. We may mostly be hugely resourceful and resilient, but the person who loves is an infinitely more vulnerable being. We should imagine it like a smaller, younger, more defenseless version of ourselves that lives in our heads and is no tougher and not much wiser than we were babies, which is when so many of our needs for, and ides about love were formed. It is vulnerable self that continues to direct our hearts even if we are 6’2” tall with a pointy beard.

The loving self has a gossamer thin ego. It gets hurt, frightened, and upset with desperate ease. You can deeply distress it by interrupting it during the story it’s telling you about the sandwich it had for lunch, by preferring a book to cuddling, or being a bit tricky about what channel it should watch on TV. Of course, these are, by ordinary adult standards, tiny slights but we don’t love by adult standards. These small arrows are enough to wound the self that loves to its tender, emotional core.

Ideally, of course, the small self would at once point out what’s happened, it would carefully explain that it’d been frustrated and hurt, but mostly it just stays silent. That’s forgivable, it doesn’t properly understand what is wrong, it just knows it is in pain and is driven by an instinct to withdraw and protect itself, which translates into behavior that looks pretty cold. If the adult self had to give to voice to the loving self’s upset, it could sound and feel absurd, which partly why it doesn’t. There can be something especially humiliating in having to say; ‘I don’t feel you took enough interest in the details of my lunch break.’

The parts of us that make themselves vulnerable in love don’t obey the ordinary adult rules. The consequence is that the loving self-dries up; it doesn’t want to have sex, it gets sarcastic and irritable, but it doesn’t even know why it is like this, it isn’t putting on an act, it is confused. 

To learn to cope we need a prominent mutual awareness and forgiveness of the dynamic of sensitivity and distress and commitment to decode it when engagement and indifference descend. We have to create a forum in which so-called minor, love-sucking hurts can safely be aired without the other dismissing, as they always so easily can, the issues at stake as childish or imagined.

The touchiness of the loving self is ridiculous, if judged by the more robust standards of the rest of life, but this is not the rest of life. When we have gone cold, we may not truly have lost interest in our partners, we might just need an opportunity to imagine that we are quietly really rather hurt and furious with them, and we should have access to a safe forum in which our tender and critical feelings can be aired, purged and understood without risk of humiliation.    

 

 

FISHERMEN RIGHTS-HUMAN RIGHTS AND SOVEREIGNITY

  Human rights have become a topic of great importance in the fishing industry. This comes after the fishing industry has been on the spotli...